Got Anymore of Them Summer Bodies?

Unfortunately I missed a day of posting yesterday. Well, technically I missed two days. On Saturday, which was Cinco de Mayo, I wrote the blog post while doing my bar crawl anddddd it did not publish. I did publish it a few minutes ago, and I back dated it. So that counts.

Then yesterday I just forgot until it was after 12 and I had stars in my eyes from playing too much Call of Duty. But anyways, here we are!

Last week, I started working out again. I really do not know how I let life and not having a car keep me from the gym for over 10 months. I have lost ALL my gains, ALL my strength and my body is not banging. There is fluff EVERYWHERE. No cuts or muscles in sight.

So the first leg day, I took it easy. I used 20lb weights and did about 8 leg exercises for one set. BRUH! The weight felt heavy and the post leg day pain was as dramatic as if I had done 4 sets with 100lbs! I cannot believe how weak I got. Me who used to rep out 145lbs for leg days is now here struggling with a 20lbs.

Today I also went for a “light jog”. I ran about three steps before my chest tightened. Now I was all set to breathe through it and slow up my pace (which to be honest was already pretty damn slow). Then my shins started going wonky and my ankles got wobbly and long sad story short, I walked. It took me 16 minutes to do a mile.

I am a bit disheartened and disappointed in myself for falling all the way off with my workouts. Now I am fat and weak and sad. There is a beach/boat/cay party that is coming up on June 10th that I wanna be in shape for. Not for anyone else really, but to see what my body can do in a month.

But this is where I am restarting. It is in this horrible state that my fitness journey is begins again. And out of the ashes of my former hard body better be an even harder body! Or ya know, something presentable for all these swimsuits I just bought!


World Autism Awareness Month

My nephew Isreal

 According to,

Autism spectrum disorder (ASD) and autism are both general terms for a group of complex disorders of brain development. These disorders are characterized, in varying degrees, by difficulties in social interaction, verbal and nonverbal communication and repetitive behaviors. With the May 2013 publication of the DSM-5 diagnostic manual, all autism disorders were merged into one umbrella diagnosis of ASD. Previously, they were recognized as distinct subtypes, including autistic disorder, childhood disintegrative disorder, pervasive developmental disorder-not otherwise specified (PDD-NOS) and Asperger syndrome.

ASD can be associated with intellectual disability, difficulties in motor coordination and attention and physical health issues such as sleep and gastrointestinal disturbances. Some persons with ASD excel in visual skills, music, math and art.

April is World Autism Awareness Month, and participants are encouraged to share info, encourage families with a child with autism, debunk myths about the spectrum, etc.

I will personally admit that I knew very little about The Autism Spectrum until my nephew was diagnosed when he was 2 years old. Now it’s my duty to educate others to know the signs and to get their child the help they need as early as possible.

Autism Awareness Day Party in Providenciales, Turks and Caicos

April 2nd is World Autism Awareness Day where everyone is especially encouraged to “Light it up Blue”… That is wear something blue, turn blue lights on in buildings, etc. in recognition of the spectrum.

In the Turks and Caicos Islands where my nephew resides, my sister and law and brother started The HOPE Foundation for Autism Awareness, where among other things, they hold seminars to educate educators about the ways to deal with and help recognize children with autism.

My nephew Isreal and his classmates hold up pictures of puzzle pieces and wear blue in honor of World Autism Awareness Day. “Until all the pieces fit”.

In The Bahamas R.E.A.C.H is the  resource and Educational source for Autism and other related challenges in the Bahamas. A non-profit organization we aim to provide parents with comprehensive knowledge and tools in all areas of this neurobiological disorder.”

How Common is Autism?
Autism occurs in all racial, ethnic and social groups and is four times more common in boys than girls. Approximately 67 million persons worldwide are affected by autism making it the world’s fastest growing serious developmental disability. In 2008 to raise global awareness the United Nations designated April 2nd as World Autism Awareness Day in perpetuity. A Center for Disease control study indicated that one in 88 children born today will be diagnosed with an autism spectrum disorder.

As World Autism Awareness Month comes to an end, it is imperative to remember that only one month is dedicated to the recognition of autism, but families live with autism everyday of their lives. It is imperative that we educate the public about autism so that people who live within the spectrum can live happy, healthy, normal lives.

I do this for Isreal and by extension every other person living with Autism.


SmileAwhile at the gym in blue in honor of World Autism Awareness Day


Ladies of Alpha Kappa Alpha Sorority, Inc wear blue in honor of World Autism Awareness Day!
Friends and Family near and far Light it Up Blue for World Autism Awareness Day!
Friends and Family wear blue in honor of World Autism Awareness Day.
The Ladies, and Head Coach of Sands Lite Lynx Flag Football team Light it up Blue in honor of World Autism Awareness Day.
The Rigby Family Light it Up Blue in honor of World Autism Awareness Day
BAHA MAR lights it up blue in honor World Autism Awareness Day. Photo courtesy of BahaMar
Pretty Boy dons blue at the gym in honor of World Autism Awareness Day.
The Ladies of Sands Light Lynx trades in their red for blue for practice on World Autism Awareness Day



World Autism Awareness

This amazing little person is my nephew Isreal

Yesterday was World Autism Awareness Day and in support of my nephew Isreal, and to shed light on this condition friends and family wore blue.

Isreal is four years old and he was diagnosed a year ago this week. I must admit that before this disorder affected my family, I did not know that much about it. There are a lot of myths about people living with autism such as they are incapable of learning or that they are slow, but in fact they can and often are very brilliant.

My four year old nephew is reading well above his age level, and in fact one of his favorite books is “The Cat in the Hat” that I bought him for Christmas.

My sister in law Maxcia (former pre-school teacher turned banker) is doing an amazing job with him. She is also great at spreading Autism Awareness where people have hardly any knowledge of what it is.

I have to share a post from my brother from his Facebook page :”God gave Isreal to us just the way he is because he knew he could trust us with him( all of us). We will keep working with him until all the pieces fit.”

Autism affects 1 in 88 children and 1 in 54 boys. It is important to know the signs and symptoms of autism so that your child can have a normal life.

So until all the pieces fit, we will light it up blue for our son, brother, cousin, grandson, nephew and friend. We light it up blue to speak out for all those living with autism!

For more information on Autism visit

Isreal with his mom, Maxcia, his older brother Judah and his big sister Gabrielle



He’s no fool…And I know it!

He’s no fool…And I know it!.


I’ve shared a blog from my sister in law before. I am constantly amazed by the gifts that my awesome nephew possesses alongside his autism.

This is a great blog to follow and it helps to break the myths surrounding autistic children especially the myth that they are slow. Isreal is anything but, he is quite intelligent and I can not wait to see him this Christmas!!

Until all the pieces fit!!

If I Get Over This Final Week Lord, I Promise I Won’t Procrastinate So Much Next Semester…

Last week of school. This is when all of those papers that I was getting since mid October are now due. “Oh wait, you were serious about that 30 page paper that you wanted me to write about the mating habits of dung beetles? And you gonna need that by TOMORROW?” *Enter panic mode*. These are the days when college students walk around looking like rejects from The Night of the Living Dead with their sole purpose, to stay awake and to try and avoid total mental breakdown!

I look back at the days when I stayed up til five o’clock in the morning, doing something frivolous like watching whatever crappy program that VH1 was playing, and I kick myself. Oh, if I could only go back to a day when there was such a thing as spare time and bed time, I would gladly and take that sleep and store it away like bears do with their fat during winter.

This is also the time of the semester, EVERY semester that we all promise ourselves (and Jesus) that we won’t wait until the very last minute to complete those 20 assignments.  We bargain with him and promise him that if he gets us thru the final week of school with our brains not turned to mush under the weight of work left undone, or if he would send fire and brimstone on down, just enough for class to be cancelled or project due dates to be postponed, that we will be better, that we will be great students and start our projects right away.

Show me a student that has not come precipitously close to the brink of tears during this week and I will show you a student that does not care (or one of those rare students that actually follows through with their promise to God). I have come to that edge, and I have sailed off the deep end hurling cuss words in my wake. I have subtracted the amount of hours in a day from the amount of pages that I have left to write and I have sat in a corner holding myself, rocking, overwhelmed by the impossibility of it all.

About to go ape sh*t

However what amazes me the most in my quest for end of semester sanity, is how many hours I still manage to clock on Facebook. My likes and comments superseding the amount of words that I have put on this paper. Myzstuntinondem Hoe’z posted 200 new pictures of her cat? I shall go through, like and comment on each one, cause everyone loves cats!

Sigh, If only you could add a few extra hours in the day sweet  Jesus. Then I promise that next semester, I ain ga do this no more!

From The Pages of Cosmo (In Honor of my Lover Touching Down in Nassau Tomorrow.)

I’m gonna get laid… SO yeah… I’m going here! If u are a prude I suggest you avert your eyes!



Her Secret Sex Fantasies

Newsflash, men: Your girlfriend has a very naughty inner life. Here’s how to become a part of it.

Read more: How To Satisfy A Woman In Bed – Women Sexual Fantasies – Cosmopolitan

In the August issue of Cosmo, we revealed the meaning behind three common secret sex fantasies that women have. But here’s the thing: This kind of advanced nookie is not a solo sport. The next time you’re talking secret sex cravings with your girlfriend, here’s how to turn her wildest fantasies into tantalizing reality.

Her Fantasy: Doing It In Public
She likes the idea of the public no-pants dance because it’s a form of rebellion. Women don’t often break the rules, so acting out in such a sexually charged way can be a massive rush.
Make It Reality: Go in for some semi-public fondling
Run your fingers up her thigh and under her skirt (under the table!) when you’re at dinner in a restaurant, or take her hand and press it against your package if you’re feeling frisky at the movies. No need to take it any further than that—just letting her know how riled up you are can prime her for some amazing sex when you get home.

Her Fantasy: Being Dominated
When you restrain her, it means she has permission to experience pleasure without having to worry about being “good” in bed or returning the favor (at least for the moment). It’s also enormously erotic knowing that your whole attention is focused on her.
Make It Reality: Tell her what to do
If she’s expressed interest in being dominated and you’ve talked about it in advance, the next time you’re hooking up and she reaches to caress you, remove her hand from your body, pin it above her head and tell her she can’t touch you until you say so. If she seems into it, get a little feistier—grab a tie or a scarf and bind her wrists to the bedframe, and then make her beg for you to kiss her (or do other things).

Her Fantasy: Getting It On With a Stranger
Sound familiar? Women and men can both feel drawn to anonymous sex, which feels completely free of the mundane, day-to-day aspects of more serious relationships.
Make It Reality: Pretend to be strangers
Unless you guys are in an open or semi-open relationship, you and your girlfriend probably aren’t cool with allowing third parties into the fold. But that doesn’t mean you can’t change up the dynamic between the two of you. Head to a bar, and pretend that you’re strangers and you’re picking her up. Then continue to stay in character back home.


Read more: How To Satisfy A Woman In Bed – Women Sexual Fantasies – Cosmopolitan

I Feel Skinny! Oh So Skinny!

I have lost about 5 lbs already! YAY ME! I actually bought a bathroom scale so I am not estimating this weight loss according to the way my clothes fit as I was doing it before… This is actually legitimate.

Sadly, the only place I have actually SEEN any weight loss difference is on the scale… And late at night as I look in the mirror with the lights off… All those shadows make me appear VERY thin… I do this often.

Another thing to note about being a this low carb diet of mine is that I get incredibly tired. So instead of doing exercise, I find myself sleeping. A LOT! So unfortunately this week I have clocked about 40 mins of exercise time with my Turbo Jam since it is much easier than the Insanity. I also found myself getting very tired and winded during the exercises. When I could have gone longer before getting winded I now find myself struggling to catch my breath half way through the video. And I mean like a grossly obese asthmatic, kinda outta breath. I found myself watching way more than I was doing. I felt like I cheated myself out of the workout. Dieting kinda sucks for my intensive workout plans. I’ll have to look for ways to rectify this. I need to get my workouts in!

But overall I feel awesome that I have seen SOME results. All my weight loss plans have set my weight loss goal at 1-2 lbs a week, which I find a bit frustrating since my wedding will be before then. Well on the upside, I am thinking that it won’t be so bad if I am not super skinny by June so that I won’t have to spend an arm and a leg on alterations!