by Almando Rigby

- My moms and her boys
This is in response to my sister’s blog ( xoxox)
Tyler Durden: My dad never went to college, so it was real important that I go.
Narrator: Sounds familiar.
Tyler Durden: So I graduate, I call him up long distance, I say “Dad, now what?” He says, “Get a job.”
Narrator: Same here.
Tyler Durden: Now I’m 25, make my yearly call again. I say Dad, “Now what?” He says, “I don’t know, get married.”
Narrator: I can’t get married; I’m a 30 year old boy.
Tyler Durden: We’re a generation of men raised by women. I’m wondering if another woman is really the answer we need.
A great scene from a good movie “Fight Club” speaks to the dubious position of most men.
“Between man and man there is always an insuperable gulf. They can never quite grasp each other’s hands; and therefore man never derives any intimate help, any heart sustenance, from his brother man, but from women-his mother, his sister, his wife.”
This quote by Nathaniel Hawthorne is one that most men in my generation (if they are honest) can relate to and sum up by saying Amen. Most men in my generation lack a real vital example of what a man should be, how he should act and what is expected of him. While divorce can be blamed in some cases the vast majority of us were from single parent homes. We are the spurious, unwanted, illegitimate, unplanned collateral damage of a booty-call gone wrong. Victims of a hush-hush culture where “DBD” (Dead Beat Dads) evade their responsibilities and are constantly on the run as if they are fugitives from the law.
Like Elliot Ness DBD seemed untouchable, and are certainly unreachable by his children, he lied to his wife (but she knew) lied to his

- My mother and her children
children and even lied to himself. The family, education and religion are three pillars of the society, but are all dominated by women. The first time I had a male teacher I was in high school, and in my six years in high school I only had 5 male teachers. Church is dominated by women, and now we are seeing more and more women becoming pastors, and religious leaders. It was Tupac that said “we all can from a woman, got our names from a woman, and our game from a woman”, we are a generation of men raised by women. I contend that it not the women that are unable to raise women, but men that have abandoned ship and like the captain of the “Costa Concordia” left the woman and children on board to perish slowly. Like the cowardly lion men need to follow the yellow brick road to the emerald city, in search of Oz to ask for some courage. (it was a woman that they were following by the way)
For ages women have been doing hero’s work, from Esther in the bible, to Harriet Tubman to Rosa Parks, Nanny of the Maroons and many mothers today including my mother and grandmother. Men have stood on the shoulders of women forever, in fact it was man that could not live without woman and this is why God made her. So little sister your mother didn’t always tell you how proud she was of you for how smart you are because you are a woman. Yes, smart and strong and able to take pain that would kill a man in a minute, you can cook and clean and wash and iron, and read a book, and help with home work, and do your own home work all at once with just two hands.

My mother and her girls
So the fact that they were grooming you to be a wife, wasn’t for you boo, it was because without woman, men would be nothing. You were being groomed to be a wife so that you can help to groom the next generation, because until the men return from the emerald city with courage in heart, you will be the mothers of the next generation of men that are raised by women.

A simpler time
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